• Rave Reviews for Kidzmet

    Parent & teachers from coast-to-coast have great things to say about Kidzmet. Here’s a sampling of some of our favorites. Do you love what we’re doing,…

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    Rave Reviews for Kidzmet

    Parent & teachers from coast-to-coast have great things to say about Kidzmet. Here’s a sampling of some of our favorites.

    Do you love what we’re doing, too? Please let us know!



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    "Best of Back-to-School tech that every parent should consider"

    "Great planning ideas and I would love getting that profile as I planned each year for instruction…I would recommend this site to parents and teachers alike."

    "A service that is long overdue for today's busy parents!" 

    "I can't believe how exact this profile was!" 

    "Help your children find their strengths and passions with Kidzmet" 

    "A good tool for a lot of parents and teachers."

    "Seriously, this is like eHarmony for teachers and students."

    "Kidzmet is a place where parents can turn to fill those gaps in their child's academic career and better yet, it's free to participating families!"

    "Kidzmet : Banishing Cookie Cutter Tutoring"

    "Love that all aspects of the child’s personality is accounted for. Can’t wait to get more involved."

    "Kidzmet.com understands the parents' strife in giving their child the best they could give."

    "[Kidzmet] develops a system that your child can embrace."

    "Your child does not have to be lumped in with all of the others."

    "A fantastic service that will definitely save you some time and money in searching for the next class for your child."

    "What's great about the Portrait Pairing is that Kidzmet really believe that there is more than one way to teach a child, and that in introducing things they may not necessarily "like" in a different manner may actually end up with them loving it, just like veggies in their favorite foods."

    "I have a special needs child and I think I’ll get a lot out of this site!"

    "Government budgets just don’t allow for individualize learning and in our day and age, majority rules…Kidzmet is trying to change this!"

    "As a Mom to two active children, I'm always looking for activities to provide fun experiences to ensure well rounded lives. "

    "As a mom of three, I have learned that not all kids learn the same way."

    "I love the understanding that learning does not fit into one cookie cutter mold! Every kid is different!"

    "Kids, like us, are born into this world bearing our own unique sets of gifts the potential of which can be maximized with proper training avenues and exposures."

    "It's the eHarmony for teachers and students!"

    "Just as no two fingerprints are alike, no two students are alike in the way that they learn"

    "If you're interested in helping your child learn in the most effective way possible, definitely check out Kidzmet.com!"

    "a pretty cool site for parents"

    "I love the concept of Kidzmet"

    "Isn't making sure your child is placed with the most compatible teacher (and class) for the next school year worth ten minutes of your time?"

    "I wish this amazing tool was available when Jordan was in elementary school. Even with my background in education there was no easy way to help us ensure that her teachers knew how she ticked."

    "The concept is rather ingenious, but simple"

    "Kidzmet is an excellent resource for parents"

    "My dad was in the Air Force and we got orders to move many times during my childhood…The one thing that would have been helpful would have been a Kidzmet Pairing Portrait to introduce us to each new teacher. "

    "By completing a Kidzmet Pairing Portrait for your child and e-mailing it to the principal and teachers at their new school before the move, the school staff will be able to receive a clear picture of their newest student! This is also a great way for teachers to introduce your child to new friends that have a similar personality and common interests!"

    "If you’ve recently moved or will be moving Kidzmet can help teachers get to know kids that have just moved to the area."

    "Kidzmet can encourage better teacher/student interactions from the beginning. It allows for more engaged and motivated learners."

    "If you are a teacher or tutor who wants to connect better with new and potential students or a parent who wants to find a tutor who cares, you should check out Kidzmet!"

    "before you sign your child up for a new after school activity, be sure to check out Kidzmet."

    "You'll be so amazed how your lesson planning can be enhanced!"

    "you can decide what the most effective way to deliver the homework to your child is."

    "Each kid is so different and it was always a challenge to find just the right way to teach them…Here is where Kidzmet can help out teachers and parents!"

    "The website is very easy to use and navigate."

    "Get a handle on your students work early this year and take advantage of these great new additions!"

    "You will easily make up the cost of the membership in your first tutoring session and benefit from it throughout the rest of the year!"

  • Using Personality Type to Enhance Music Education

    Using Personality Type to Enhance Music Education

    Bonnie TeVelde wasn't always a music school director—she started as an accountant and business operations consultant that helped clients develop their businesses. She was frustrated and…

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    Using Personality Type to Enhance Music Education

    Bonnie TeVelde wasn't always a music school director—she started as an accountant and business operations consultant that helped clients develop their businesses. She was frustrated and started a music education on the side to fill her soul in a way her day job couldn't. As her music business grew, she really loved it and felt like she wasn't working–she just "went into the zone"–and realized that teaching music was what she was MEANT to do.

    Pairing Music Education Students and Teachers by Personality

    Bonnie discovered firsthand as both a music student and a school director that the typical people who make it through high-level music school are really detail-oriented extroverts (Extroverted Sensing Thinking Judgers) because they:

    * require extroverted qualities (E) for performing,

    * have to be detail-oriented to play the notes exactly as conducted or written (ST), and

    * are very scheduled individuals that are product-oriented (J)

    …and those are the people who typically decide to teach music.

    However, ESTJs are typically self-minded from a personality perspective, which makes it challenging for them to be successful teachers because teaching is all about the STUDENT. Since Bonnie had been a music minor that loved psychology during college, she began pairing the two disciplines as she grew her music business, and started matching the personality type of the student to the personality type of the teacher. (As an INFP, Bonnie intuitively knew to be more flexible with the "perceiving" kids in her classes and encourage them to play for the love of music versus scheduled daily practices.)

    And she watched her student attrition rates drop as a result.

    But even with the most nurturing teacher/student relationship for the "Perceiving" students during lessons, she saw a trend after 6 months that they no longer had the zest for music that they had when they began…and began to see that the "Perceiving" students coming in that really adored playing music were inadvertently thwarted by "Judging" parents that wanted their kids to be on a practice routin–and that the "Judging" students with "Perceiving" parents weren't adhering to a more disciplined practice regimen and lost interest after several months. So she started coaching her parents with mismatched personality types on how to better nurture their little musicians…and she was thrilled to see her student attrition rates drop even further. Best of all, the program served to further nurture fledgling musicians versus potentially squelching talent solely because the mentoring style of the teacher or parent didn't fit the student.

    Success in Music Breeds Success in School

    Pairing students with music mentors of matching personality types reaped benefits beyond the music school walls. All but TWO of the students from the teVelde School of Music's 100+ student roster are on their schools' honor rolls. Bonnie feels that this is because music education doesn't just teach music…it teaches attention to detail; greater connections between the right and left hemispheres of the brain because both child's hands are occupied simultaneously while playing; and a stick-to-itiveness that is ingrained through a first-hand knowledge that "practice makes perfect". This mirrors several studies that shows that spatial reasoning increases by 34% in music students, IQs rise by several points as a result of music instruction, and music majors have the HIGHEST acceptance rates by university medical programs.

    Perfect Absolute Pitch

    Another unique dimension of the teVelde program's music curriculum is Perfect Absolute Pitch (PAP) for 2-6 year olds. These private lessons can help get a labeling system in place for pitch that is akin to the brain's labeling system for color. (How do you know you're looking at an orange piece of paper? You instinctively know it after being trained to match the tone with the appropriate label. How do you know you're hearing a "G" on the keyboard? You can only if you've trained your brain how to label that pitch as a G…regardless of octave.) Perhaps this metaphor is why PAP is often referred to "hearing in color".

    Bonnie emphasizes that if your child has three or more of the seven signs of musical talent (click here to read them all), it is critical that they start music lessons as young as possible, since the ability to develop PAP is significantly hindered if you don't expose your child to a PAP program before the age of six.

    Per Bonnie, almost all of the truly great composers in history had PAP, including Bach, Beethoven, Bartok, Chopin, Handel, Mozart, Rimsky-Korsakoff, Saint-Saens, and more. Some famous 20th /21st Century performers that have PAP are: Julie Andrews, Leonard Bernstein, Mariah Carey, Nat King Cole, Bing Crosby, Miles Davis, Celine Dion, Ella Fitzgerald, Marvin Hamlisch, Jimi Hendrix, Vladimir Horowitz, Michael Jackson, Yo-Yo Ma, Yngwie Malmstein, Andre Previn, Artur Rubinstein, Paul Shaffer, Frank Sinatra, Barbra Streisand, Arturo Toscanini, Steve Vai, Brian Wilson, Stevie Wonder, Yanni, and more.

    In fact, 69% of popular musicians have PAP, compared to the general population percentages which are 1/10,000 with the genetic ability, and much less than that who actually have training early enough to develop it fully. Bonnie is quick to note that not every child who is musical will become a great musician, even if they start young. But, if you really believe your child is musical, why would you deny them the chance of developing the one ability that could set them apart from most the other musicians out there?

    More Information

    For more in-depth information on Bonnie and the teVelde School of Music, we encourage you to visit the school's website here.

    Thanks to Bonnie and all of her instructors for giving children the gift of music education that's taught in a way that truly embraces and respects each student's unique spirit.

  • How to Choose the Best Instrument for Your Child

    How to Choose the Best Instrument for Your Child

    If you have a little musician in the house, they may be chomping at the bit to graduate up from your pots and pans and belting…

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    How to Choose the Best Instrument for Your Child

    If you have a little musician in the house, they may be chomping at the bit to graduate up from your pots and pans and belting out vocal stylings to toddler tunes to their first musical instrument.

    Selecting the right instrument for your child is a very important decision because you and your child will be hearing that instrument daily for as long as they keep up lessons. Before you decide on an instrument, it's important to narrow your focus to instruments that are a great match not just for the student, but for the family as a whole.

    Here are some tips on finding the best musical instrument for your future Yo Yo Ma, Kenny G or George Winston:

    How old is your child?

    Woodwind and brass instruments (excepting the recorder) can't be started until the child has a mouthful of adult teeth–typically about 7 or 8–in order to position their lips and teeth correctly around or in front of any mouthpiece.  String instruments are often made down to size where even the tiniest tykes can start learning them at 3. Drums and piano can also be started very young–even as young as 2.5–though it's important to choose a teacher that's well-versed in teaching kids this small. If you have any indication that your child may have musical talent, though, be sure to get them started with music lessons between ages 3 and 5, as studies out of Japan are now showing that kids that show signs of musical talent and start lessons before age 6 have a greater chance of achieving PERFECT ABSOLUTE PITCH…a talent that only a rare few currently possess, but that nearly 70% of popular performers do.

    How much room do you have available in your house or car?

    While upright pianos don't typically take a whole lot of space, even  the 8 square feet an upright takes in the main living area of a small house or apartment can cramp a family's style. You may consider trying a keyboard instead, but it's important to invest in one that has 88 weighted keys…and that your chosen instructor is comfortable with your choice before you purchase one. Drum sets are another big footprint item that may be crossed off the list of potentials by virtue of space alone. But, if you have a kid that's dying to be a drummer, there are options like a digital drum kit or drum pads that take up less space that some teachers may be comfortable with. However, you may not have considered the size of a cello, bass, or tuba related to the space available in your car when narrowing down your instrument list. And if you're thinking of crossing a harp off your list by virtue of size alone, you may want to reconsider as there are smaller harp sizes built for even tiny fingers.

    How Much Does an Instrument Cost?

    Be sure to take into account what you can reasonably afford to rent or purchase (bearing in mind that you will probably want to start with a gently used second hand instrument when first beginning). There's no point in letting your child set their heart on an instrument that you won't be able to buy or rent for them. Many music shops will allow your rental fees to be put toward your future instrument purchase, so when first trying an instrument, a rental is often a great choice. Craigslist and eBay also often have great deals on gently used instruments that are locally available.

    Now for the fun part – figuring out which types of instruments you all like hearing most.

    Check out music CDs at the library or download some free MP3s and see which ones you both gravitate toward. Need a way to narrow the field? Start with instruments that you feel best match the personality of your child. Your boisterous extravert may instantly connect with a trumpet, guitar or drum, while an introvert may prefer a flute, clarinet or violin–all instruments that typically play in a section in orchestras or bands versus having a solo voice. Bonnie TeVelde, an Arroyo Grande, CA music teacher that specializes in pairing the right instruments and teachers with each child based on Myers-Brigg personality types recommends violin, cello and band instruments for "S" personality types and piano, guitar and drums for "N" personality types (AKA little composers). By taking Kidzmet's Preference Profile, you'll not only get recommendations for music and other enrichment classes that are well-suited to your child's personality, but we'll also recommend the local music teachers that are most compatible with your child and, therefore, uniquely qualified to celebrate his or her spirit.

    And now for the NOT so fun part—but perhaps the most critical.

    Audit Some Beginning Music Lessons

    See if you and your little musician can sit in on a few beginning lessons in the instruments he or she is most interested in learning to play.

    Make sure both of you can stand to hear the instrument played poorly, since you will be hearing this level of musicality around your house on a daily basis when they first get started.

    Whichever instrument you ultimately choose, your child will need your encouragement to continue practicing–especially in the beginning. Start with about 10 minutes of practice once a day and try to increase the time in 5 minute increments with a goal of approximately 30 minutes a day. As their competency improves, you shouldn't need to nag them to practice, since much of the motivation to practice and advance their knowledge will come from inside. This said, it helps to have a cheering section during and after their daily practices so that they know that their musical talent is valued by their family.

  • The Introverted Sensing Personality Type for Kids (ISJ)

    The Introverted Sensing Personality Type for Kids (ISJ)

    The ISJ personality type for kids is indicative of incredible powers of concentration. ISJ kids love to have plenty of time to work independently in a…

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    The Introverted Sensing Personality Type for Kids (ISJ)

    The ISJ personality type for kids is indicative of incredible powers of concentration. ISJ kids love to have plenty of time to work independently in a logical way—just like the ISFJ and ISTJ adults they grow-up to be. Often risk-averse, they prefer not to experiment and prefer situations where A + B always equals C. ISJ personality types love rules and explicit objectives. The opposite of procrastinators, these kids like to have adequate time to prepare for and reach their goals.

    Natural students, these kids thrive in traditional structured environments where their meticulous attention to detail and natural propensity toward organization is valued—even if it’s behind the scenes. Very private people, ISJ personality types are cautious and reserved and abhor being the center of attention. (Sound familiar, ISFJ and ISTJ parents?) They can get nervous and anxious if they are presented with situations or problems that they don’t already know how to think about or solve. For this reason, classes that are open-ended or objectively assessed may not be great fits for these kids.

    Given their introverted nature, it’s best to enroll kids with an ISJ personality type in 1:1 teacher to student classes or with small teacher to student ratios. These kids will often gravitate toward music classes or computer programming. Spelling bees are also often favorites of the ISJ personality type. If you prefer to engage your child in a larger group environment, perhaps consider an orchestra or chorus, where all the kids involved are working toward the same, clearly defined goal. Because of their desire for stability, rules and routine, you’ll often find that kids with ISJ personality types will continue with a certain type of classes over a period of many years, continually setting and achieving higher and higher goals for themselves along a knowledge ladder.

    Though introverted, these kids have a strong need to feel like a part of a larger community. As a result, “behind the scenes” work is often a good fit. Cooking classes supplemented by baking cupcakes for a school bake sale is a good example of how to make both sides of this particular personality type's nature flourish.

    Musical children with an ISJ personality type do well studying an instrument for their own enjoyment, without having to perform in front of an audience. (Although they do well learning, and then recording their songs, then giving them as gifts to their families for the birthdays and holidays.) They do not do well performing solos, but are usually fine performing in a group like in a band or orchestra environment. Kids with ISJ personality types love to play instruments that can be played independently, without having to rely on other musicians. They love having their instruments in their rooms, so they can go to them and play when they are feeling stressed. It is important that they are never, ever, pressured to perform. Parents may mean well, but this can have a particularly negative impact on this personality type.

    Ever respectful of rules, guidelines, and consistency, the teachers of children with an ISJ personality type who adhere to a stated course curriculum, and start and end classes on time, are often favorites. 

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  • Introverted Intuitive Personality Type (AKA INFJ or INTJ Children)

    Introverted Intuitive Personality Type (AKA INFJ or INTJ Children)

    Integrity and independence are strong forces within Introverted Intuitives (INJ). These kids are very concerned with identifying approaches to problems that help others to grow and…

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    Introverted Intuitive Personality Type (AKA INFJ or INTJ Children)

    Integrity and independence are strong forces within Introverted Intuitives (INJ). These kids are very concerned with identifying approaches to problems that help others to grow and develop. Service-oriented, INJ children have most likely been interested in ideas that benefit the masses from an early age and were in tune with personal values and belief systems far earlier than most kids. A perfectionist who is often perceived as serious and intense, INFJ and INTJ kids have a gift for honing in on a subject of interest and will continue to develop their talents until they have reached a level of mastery.

    Homework Approach/Tactics

    • Help your INxJ work from the top-down (e.g. big idea first, then the nitty-gritty) and from the unknown to the known (e.g. hypothesis first, then proof/support).
    • Encourage the use of examples to illustrate points in order to help draw out the details required for a high grade.
    • Introducing your INJ child to mind maps can help clarify thoughts and provide the details that they tend to gloss over. They can also help him identify a single thread to pursue and frame the project after exploring the myriad of tangents.
    • Your INJ enjoys the idea phase of assignments much more than the production phase.
    • Because breadth is more interesting to your INJ than depth, be sure to reinforce when topics require more attention—particularly when it is a building block to the next topic.
    • The consummate planner, an introverted intuitive will appreciate a recommended timeline for assignment completion rather than a single deadline and may become anxious or distressed when juggling multiple long-term assignments.
    • Let your introverted intuitive child know when time is almost up for completing an activity (e.g. 5 minute warning).
    • Your INJ likes to adhere to boundaries and rules and may label you “unfair” if rules are not enforced equally for all siblings.

    Interactions with Others

    • If you plan study groups for your INFJ or INTJ child, be sure to make them small or comprised of other introverts. If you are an extraverted parent working with an introverted intuitive child, be patient, as your INJ’s strength is to think through responses in their head, then offer a conclusion once they've formulated a complete response.
    • An introverted intuitive child recharges their batteries with alone time. As such, allow a short window after school for your INJ to recenter before embarking upon homework assignments. However, don't wait too long, as the pressure of looming dinnertime/bedtime can cause anxiety for her.

    Study Skills Development

    • Help your child develop completion plans for long-term assignments and, should something come up that interferes with the original plan, help them to develop an alternate one. Introducing her to tools like OpenProj or Microsoft Project can prove extremely beneficial.
    • The greatest gift you can give an introverted intuitive child as a parent is to help develop his/her inner critic, so that he can forsee difficulties, modify his vision/inspiration and act appropriately. 

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  • The Extraverted Thinking Child

    The Extraverted Thinking Child

    Capable, decisive and organized, your Extraverted Thinker (ETJ) will most likely be at the pinnacle of business as an adult. ESTJ and ENTJ children like to…

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    The Extraverted Thinking Child

    Capable, decisive and organized, your Extraverted Thinker (ETJ) will most likely be at the pinnacle of business as an adult. ESTJ and ENTJ children like to be in control and enjoys situations that challenge and stimulate them within the context of interacting with a variety of people. Ambitious by nature, this type of child thrives on competition and public accolades. The extraverted thinking child believes that behavior should be logical and probably finds listening to another person’s perspective to be challenging.  People probably often guess that extraverted thinking kids are older than their chronological ages.

    Ambitious by nature, the Extraverted Thinker (ETJ) thrives on competition and public accolades. It’s important to get this child into groups that help them channel their abundant energy so that they don’t let it escalate into overaggression.

    Homework Approach/Tactics

    • This child has a gift for the analytical and relishes problem solving and likes to find flaws in ideas or plans. Use this innate talent to help your extraverted thinking child edit initial homework drafts and understand how he ro she can make not just this, but future assignments even better.
    • A natural debater, an extraverted thinker has a natural gift for justifying answers and defending positions. As such, if your ESTJ or ENTJ child earns a low score or grade, be sure to ask the teacher to be specific with critiques so that you can help him overcome issues in the future.
    • The consummate planner, an extroverted thinker may become anxious or distressed when juggling multiple long-term assignments. If he is given a single deadline for an assignment, work with your extroverted thinking child to develop interim steps and deadlines so that he or she can play to the ETJs strength of approaching multiple assignments like an endurance runner instead of a sprinter.
    • Encourage your child to complete homework as early as possible, so that he or she doesn’t encounter undue stress related to bedtime, favorite show coming on, etc. In this same vein, be sure to let this student know when time is almost up for completing an activity (e.g. 5 minute warning).
    • This student likes to adhere to boundaries and rules and may label you “unfair” if homework rules are not enforced equally for all siblings in the family.

    Learning-Based Interactions with Others

    • This student learns well from study groups, as verbalizing thoughts helps this student think through problems.
    • Ensure this student is in a quiet part of the house when working through a particularly difficult assignment, as other noises and conversations can be extremely distracting.

    Study & Life Skills Development

    • Encourage this child to accept both success and defeat with grace. Help your child develop an appreciation of other’s merits—not simply focus what needs to be corrected.
    • Help your child develop completion plans for long-term assignments and, should something come up that interferes with the original plan, help them to develop an alternate one. Introducing this student to tools like OpenProj or Microsoft Project can prove to be extremely beneficial tools.
    • Helping this student to develop coping mechanisms when things don’t go as planned is one of the greatest gifts you can give your extroverted thinker. Kidzmet® recommends layering your child’s Multiple Intelligence preferences to help take your child’s feelings of frustration, anger or fear to a more joyful, peaceful place.

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